Jessica: Hi Julia. My first thought is what is the reason you are not together? Is he married? Does he not return your love? There could be a few scenarios, bottom line is this: if he wanted to be with you then he would. Often we romanticize situations because facing the simple truth is crap. 10 years....goodness me. That is a very long time to decide on making your heart unavailable. Have you been dating at all during this time? My philosophy is don't waste your life, your life is happening NOW. One of the things I say in my Dating Chapter in my book is that it is essential if you are single then do single WELL. Believe it or not, you have decided to maintain these feelings for this person, what you need to do is DECIDE to stop. Keeping something pointless alive takes effort. Believe me, if you stop dwelling on it, it will go away. Ask yourself this; why do you love him? He's not with you, and I can only assume by his choice. What positive things are you getting from this person? What negative things? Is loving him making you happy? Is it making you unhappy? May sound like stupid questions but the answers are important. Why continue to treat yourself so badly by choosing to fan the flame? Do you believe you deserve a mutually satisfying relationship and a man who returns your love? DO YOU? By the sounds of things I have some doubts that you truly own your self worth. You deserve far better than this my darling, but you won't ever have it unless you start BELIEVING you do. You can totally overcome this, please believe me, you need to refocus that so called 'love' for him inward. Love you first.
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